Episode 1: Matt & Sarah Brown | Sharing our Strength
Here is Matt & Sarah Brown, from Christchurch, New Zealand. Matt is a world-ranked barber and hair-artist. His barbershop has become a space for men to talk about their life without being judged. He has created this space by being vulnerable himself and sharing his own stories. His mantra to change the world: "Seek to understand, not to be understood."
Episode 2: Caine Tauwhare | The Culture of our Ancestors
Caine shares with us the practice of whakairo, or traditional Māori wood carving. He was taught whakairo from a young age, which he now shares with others through mentoring and teaching. Caine communicates his wisdom about how whakairo expresses a deep connection to ancestors & land.
Episode 3: Richard Hurt-long | Kevin & Raewyn Crozier | Fighting Internal Fires
In this episode, Richard, Kevin, and Raewyn (Kev's partner) share their experiences of the Christchurch earthquake. Firefighters Kev & Richard go into detail about their trauma from responding to the CTV building. They courageously talk about their huge losses as a result of the earthquake, dealing with tragedies in the community, as well as some contrasting and humorous false alarms. They both emphasise how important the support of their fellow firefighters has been and how important those close relationships are to them. They speak about their own well being practices of finding somewhere to wind down, and "let your hair loose."
Episode 4: Doug Avery | The Resilient Farmer
Doug is a well-known farmer from Seddon who has experienced his fair share of hard times farming in the drought striken Marlborough region of the South Island. Having persevered through droughts, earthquakes, and more, after losing all hope and coming out stronger on the other side, Doug tells us what tools he's created for his own resilience and a better outcome.
Episode 5: Sam don Barber | Meet in the Samwich
Sam don Barber is traveling Aotearoa in his van trading haircuts for services to raise awareness of masculinity, communication, and men's mental health. This is a thought provoking conversation that will lead you to question your very conditioning. “The Sam’s" discuss their experiences of exploring men’s mental health in Aotearoa and take the conversation about gender to a new level for Tough Talk.
Episode 6: Harlem Ratapu | Transformed by Tangaroa
Harlem is a spear fisherman, bee keeper, and amateur film maker who is setting a good example for our young ones. He talks about how aggression in relationships was the norm for him while growing up, which led to challenges in his relationships as an adult. Therapy helped him accept what was going on for him. The natural world taught him how to let go. He discusses how he manages anger and is now a role model for others to live more fulfilled lives.
Episode 7: Zac Franich | Redefining Success
Zac Franich, New Zealand’s own bachelor star and contestant of Dancing with the Stars, sits down to tell Sam his story. Zac tells us about the environment of high performance sports – in the competition for “success” there is little energy for empathy. They also go deep into a conversation about masculinity, femininity, and redefining success and desirability.
Episode 8: Paddy Hawke | Owning Our Shame
In part 1, Sam & Paddy explore a common experience: violence within their friendship. We hear about Paddy's personal story of growing up, and how his relationship with his dad affected the way he acted. Paddy tells us that he strongly believes in ownership of his actions and how freeing taking accountability can be in the long run.
In part 2, Paddy tells us about his experience with managing stress, heavy workloads and burn-out. He shares a story about a time when he reached a tipping point, which revolutionised his approach to well-being and leadership.
Episode 9: Michael & Joe Walker | Back from the Dead
Michael begins by telling his story of public service success in the Navy, Army, DOC, and much more. He then tells a second thread, which until now had been interwoven invisibly through his story – his mental health journey with depression, anxiety, and surviving multiple suicide attempts.
Episode 10: Tiaki Coates & Harmz de Thierry | Tears of Ranginui
We sit down at Solscape near Raglan to korero about Poutama Tāne, a rites of passage organisation for boys and men. As our korero gets deeper and a Te Ao Māori lens forms, the rain falling from the sky takes on a new meaning. Time passes by effortlessly as we get absorbed in the telling of ancient stories and absorb the wisdom they offer.
Episode 11: Adam Sharplin | Breaking the Cycle
This time we’re going deeper by investigating the historical roots of Adam’s challenge with addiction as a young man and his journey to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma.